A Transformational Approach to Healing, Emotional Release, and Personal Growth

Over thousands of hours coaching and guiding transformational journeys, I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard:

"I just want to let this sh*t go!"

Let go of this limiting belief.

Let go of my trauma.

Let go of the pain, the anger, the old wounds.

I’ve heard it dozens – maybe hundreds – of times. Can you relate?

The Illusion of “Letting It Go”

On the surface, “let it go” sounds like wisdom. It speaks to surrender, to embracing the present, to releasing the past and stepping into an uninhibited, self-actualized version of yourself.

But here’s the problem: most of the time, “letting go” is actually resistance in disguise.

In many cases, “let it go” has the same energy as “f*ck this!”* – a rejection of what is, rather than true surrender. And when we resist, we don’t release. Instead, we suppress. We bury emotions, only for them to surface again, demanding to be witnessed.

As the saying goes: what we resist, persists.

If we truly want transformation, we don’t need to “let go.” We need to let it all in.

The Power of Letting It In

You are the most powerful instrument of transmutation you have access to. Your body and your energy field hold ancestral memory, personal history, and the wisdom of lifetimes. In the time of a single breath, hundreds of cells die, hundreds are created; you are constantly recreating yourself. 

From this lens, true release – true healing – is not about getting rid of something. It’s about alchemizing it:

🌀 Dis-ease into well-being

🌀 Shame into liberation

🌀 Pain into compassion

🌀 Trauma into self-mastery, discernment, and purpose

And this only happens when we let it in first.

Instead of setting the intention to “let it go,” try setting the intention to be with it – to approach it with curiosity and compassion. To feel it fully, to witness it, to honor it.

A Practice for Letting It All In

Next time you find yourself thinking, “I just want to let this sh*t go!”* – pause. Try this instead:

1. Sit comfortably, bringing awareness to your spine and pelvis.

2. Place one hand on your heart and the other on your lower belly.

3. Breathe deeply, slowly, and evenly, feeling your hands rise and fall.

4. Think of the emotion, memory, or belief you want to “let go.”

5. Instead of pushing it away, speak one of these invocations aloud:

   
   

5 Mantras to Replace “Let It Go”

🔹 Help me feel differently toward ____.

🔹 Give me the curiosity and self-compassion to be with ____.

🔹 What support do I need to see ____ differently?

🔹 Show me the meaning of ____ in the most gentle way I can receive.

🔹 Help me see the grace and beauty in ____.

Breathe. Notice what arises.

What new awareness or sensation is coming forward?

What are you now ready to be deeply curious about?

Because healing isn’t about getting rid of parts of us; it is about integrating all of us.

What shift will you try today?